So many memes and self-help columns talk about forgiveness. They talk about how forgiving others frees you. Certainly there are those circumstances where forgiveness is needed and in order. But for most day-to-day misunderstandings, forgiveness is one step too late. Love isn’t about forgiving, it is about understanding. People do the things they do to accommodate their truth, their situation, and their own circumstances. Sometimes those things are contrary to what we would wish for. We can hurt at their actions. We can be offended. Or we can love. Love would dictate that we look at things through their eyes – just as hurt wishes they had looked through ours. So I guess the question we must ask ourselves is if we want to be hurting, or if we would prefer to be loving. I choose love.