Love without qualifiers…

There are so many memes that state things like “If someone doesn’t show you the respect you deserve, then it’s time to show them the door”, or “If someone can’t find time for you, then they don’t really care for you. Spend your efforts on someone who does”. Seems to me that deciding those things is a form of being judgmental. If you love someone, you love them for all of who they are – regardless of if they are respectful to you (by your determination), or if they give you the time you think you deserve. I have learned these things the hard way – and maybe by my own hand lost people who I wanted in my life – even if they were not respectful to me, even if they did not find time for me. Love is love. If you love someone, you have to love them as they are. Just as they are, perhaps busy, perhaps sometimes thoughtless – but perhaps other times – if you give them the chance – the best friend ever, or maybe even not… The point is, if you love them, love them. No worries beyond that. Anything further is not about how they treat you, but really more about the depth of your love for them, and a reflection of your self-worth in needing them to validate it. 

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