One of my favorite quotes is by Dr. Wayne Dyer, saying “See the light in others, and treat them as if that’s all you see”. To me this quote is amusing in some regards, because I have no concept of why I would want to do otherwise. Of course the notion of seeing only their light is an ideal, because even as much as I love people, I do in fact notice a flaw or two here and there, just as I too readily notice my own. But wishing to treat them as if I only saw their light seems to be a natural thing.
Clearly most of us are not perfect, and sometimes get annoyed at others. But also just as clearly it is much more enjoyable for both us and the “others” if we concentrate on those things in each other that bring light. If we focus on the things in each other that are in fact enjoyable, then naturally we find joy in each other. Why would that not be our goal? In fact to carry that philosophy further, by focusing on the light in ourselves, in others, and in the world we will create a life for ourselves which is filled with that very light.